How can you experience life unless you participate in all the avenues available. What’s the use in holding a piece of chocolate and never tasting it? What’s the use of receiving a gift and never unwrapping it? I always think, “What a shame!”
This question plagued me whenever I went to a party or a new event where there was a room full of new faces. Why would I not want to go home knowing more about at least one person in that room? Why then do some people go to parties and events and never interact with anyone new? I have not yet found the answer. People love talking and they love talking about themselves when you ask them the right questions. I could learn about the big wide world by opening a book or in these modern times opening Google or better still You Tube but how very passive. Interacting with another human pair of eyes is so much more engaging and you the listener dictate how interesting that conversation is going to get by asking the right questions and displaying the right kind of interest on your face. Don’t blame the speaker for being boring because this interaction is a 50-50 love affair. You have to do your part so if you find the speaker boring, what must the speaker be thinking of you?
Have you noticed different situations where two people are so engaged and animated in their conversational circle. There is a twinkle in their eyes, smiles on their faces and the body language is locked into each other. Then when they’ve had enough of each other you try to emulate the same with one of the espied and you just don’t seem to get the same connection. Why? Why is it at that moment, between the two of you there is zilch. Nothing but an awkward shuffle and mumble. Then perhaps an hour later you meet up with the same person and this time you click. You find some common ground. Your eyes twinkle and you leave with a smile on your lips. Amazing! But that experience,.. that joy doesn’t happen if you stand in the corner and don’t put the chocolate in your mouth, and unwrap the gift.
Life happens to those who show up.